Comments on: stuck http://aurevoirgoodbyesolong.wordpress.com/2009/06/17/stuck/ Tue, 08 Dec 2009 14:21:36 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Shell http://aurevoirgoodbyesolong.wordpress.com/2009/06/17/stuck/#comment-348 Shell Fri, 19 Jun 2009 00:07:24 +0000 http://aurevoirgoodbyesolong.wordpress.com/2009/06/17/stuck/#comment-348 Oh, isn't this the way we treat ourselves so often - as paid caregivers, or people somehow "less than" in our relationships though we are beyond competent outside its walls? It seems many of us have a particular disease: the have to be a partner no matter the cost illness. It is so hard when the one who is truly paying is the one inside of us, all starving and lonely, yet so happy sometimes to be alone - like in bed when "he" or "she" is gone for a time. That said, oh, it is hard. Perhaps it is even more difficult when we ARE so good at other jobs, including our mothering. Guilt is a powerful thing. Just some thoughts. Oh, isn’t this the way we treat ourselves so often – as paid caregivers, or people somehow “less than” in our relationships though we are beyond competent outside its walls? It seems many of us have a particular disease: the have to be a partner no matter the cost illness.

It is so hard when the one who is truly paying is the one inside of us, all starving and lonely, yet so happy sometimes to be alone – like in bed when “he” or “she” is gone for a time. That said, oh, it is hard. Perhaps it is even more difficult when we ARE so good at other jobs, including our mothering. Guilt is a powerful thing.

Just some thoughts.

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